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Faust76 路 46-50, M
Yes. But I'm bit too gleeful about that scientific study which basically said that unless they have unifying interest like children etc. mostly just people high on "dark triad" traits ie. psychopathy, narcissism and machiavellianism can stay friends after breakup. That's different from being full-blown, but still... I guess then you're talking different shades of love.
Faust76 路 46-50, M
@SW-User It depends... and I also somewhat back the other responses saying sometimes it's less than people think etc. I've seen people going from in love, to "friends with benefits", to enemies when they discover that FWB is actually all they were. ("I can't believe the guy I was cheating with cheated on me!" in the worst case)
I'm sure it's possible for a good-hearted loving person to do the "unrequited love" even when one person is clear they're only enjoying the benefits, though I do wonder what sort of personality it takes. Do they really believe they're the best thing under the Sun for this other person who's clearly not interested in love regardless of their desires and feelings? Uh yeah, maybe already answered that, but from my side I do know the pangs of unrequited love as well and that alone can keep people together for a while unless they learn to let go.
I'm sure it's possible for a good-hearted loving person to do the "unrequited love" even when one person is clear they're only enjoying the benefits, though I do wonder what sort of personality it takes. Do they really believe they're the best thing under the Sun for this other person who's clearly not interested in love regardless of their desires and feelings? Uh yeah, maybe already answered that, but from my side I do know the pangs of unrequited love as well and that alone can keep people together for a while unless they learn to let go.
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@Faust76 Yeah that FWB is a tough call.. you have to be strong enough to realize the other person is only in it for the sex. Not always easy when there are other emotions involved. Unless of course you feel exactly the same way and in that case go for it. But I still think it gets complicated.
And as for the unrequited love that is also a very tough thing. Somewhat similar to the FWB I would think.
And as for the unrequited love that is also a very tough thing. Somewhat similar to the FWB I would think.