Would you rather have someone tell tell you that they aren't interested or ghost (ignore out the blue) you?

If a man is blowing hot and cold it's usually because he is juggling you with somebody else and you're his back up, maybe he's married and trying to keep you a secret. If it's work or anything else innocent, there is no reason not to message or give you a quick call.

Aw well fuck him.honesty can save a lot of trouble and pain

I am dealing with the hot and cold nonsense now. I’d rather just hear that they aren’t interested than having to wonder what’s up...and when they will randomly resurface. Over and over...

I'd rather have him telling me he's simply not interested.

It takes courage to be sincere. I like courageous people.

I think they often ghost you so that they can leave the window open to come back should they choose to as it suits their whim. Pretty shitty, but that’s my take.

Kindly tell me you don't think we are a match. Ghosting is a tacky thing to do!

The former but latter sends an equally clear message to me

Obviously tell me

Just tell me.

Tell me

Agreed. It’s much easier to know, so that one can close that chapter and move on.