Why do men not care to fix a relationship or marriage until it actually falls apart completely ?

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Because it's only by then that most women open up and tell them what's bothering them. Many women think it's a necessary act of true love to be able to read their minds.

We can't.

Fernie · F

@redredred get a grip ...don't blame women for a man's inability to communicate

redredred · M

I'm citing the well known aspect of relationships that women expect men to be able to read minds. @Fernie

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

@redredred Your point is well taken. But sometimes, for various reasons, we don't feel comfortable talking about what's bothering us. The last time my boyfriend asked me if I had been unhappy, and what was bothering me, he didn't like the answer he got. He said, "I don't want to hear about that." After this happened a couple of times, I learned that when he asked questions like that (Have you been unhappy with me? What's been bothering you?), these were only rhetorical questions, which he didn't actually want the honest answers to.

Sometimes the truth is harsh, or makes us uncomfortable, so we avoid facing it.