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Do you believe in traditional marriage roles?

What are your personal views on marital roles? Roles while dating/in a relationship are one thing, but should or does this change when you decide to marry someone and begin a family and home?

Are you traditional, modern, or have a mixed-view on marriage roles?

inb4 making sandwich jokes towards women.

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Msp940 · 41-45, M

Couples should do what makes them happy and works out the best for them and them alone. The roles are often best suited for a particular personality type vs which gender is what. Traditional, while it works for many, is a short way of saying "I do this because others before me did it." I do not believe it is always the best course since what happened in the past is not always the best option.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Msp940 Very wise, actually.

PoetryNEmotion · F

Traditional marriages are rare these days. I believe in much communication involving roles. Some people are better homemakers. Some raise children better. People need to collaborate and choose the best roles for themselves. I do not believe in women not having careers. Life can change in a blink of an eye. A woman must be able to take care of herself and the children. Men have to learn to be more open to women working, etc. And to share their feelings and their tools. Marriage is a joining of 2 people. They are a couple yet still two people joined with hands held.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

Two people, side by side, neither one in front nor behind ...

Zeuro · 26-30, F

Nah, I want to be a working mom. The husband can stay at home or we can hire a nanny

rachelwydle · 31-35, F

@Zeuro

My boyfriend is all about that pat leave when we have babies and I'm so happy. 😂

katielass · F

Well, my hubby was my Dom so I'd say uber-traditional.

cunningcrocodile · 31-35, F

@katielass Same here, I'd love to discuss it with you

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Yes but didn't come to that POV until years into my relationship/marriage.

Turns out I don't think both parents should work full time, and now I'm stuck in an arrangement I don't want to be in.

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

@PoetryNEmotion well... I've been looking for a job with the same work/life flexibility and allowances and salary as I presently have, we've been through 3 couples therapists, and each our own individual therapist, told him I wanted a divorce, tried to inspire change, put in more effort, put in no effort [thinking maybe driving it home how over it I am]... the next step is willingly putting myself in financial ruin, finding a lawyer, further messing up my kid [her father is a vengeful narcissist], many of my things including heirlooms destroyed/disappeared, and yet another team of theapists. I was foolish to think I could avoid all that but I'm at the end of the road for the path I'm currently on.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Starcrossed It is good that you have tried everything. I did too. Then I divorced him. I have only these 2 things to comment. I am only regretting I did not leave him and take my son earlier in that marriage. And you will succeed in the end by starting on a new path. I know this. If I may help you, do let me know. I was in my early 50's when I finally started again. Never once regretted it. And you shall not too.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

@PoetryNEmotion <3 thank you kindly for your wisdom

dragonfly46 · F

I am a loud, outgoing, progressive female. I love my husband to be dominate in our relationship. He never tells me what to do, and gives me equal say in everything. But when it comes to big decisions, it's all him. It works for us, been happily married for many years

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rachelwydle · 31-35, F

That's awesome! Embrace your weirdness (honestly, it's not that weird of a perspective 😛)!

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cunningcrocodile · 31-35, F

Traditional marriage roles. Feminine female that raises children, submits to husband, husband who works. In before all the negative blanket statements about men.

cunningcrocodile · 31-35, F

@cunningcrocodile No response? D:

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

I have a traditional marriage and have had it for 40 years. It works. I am the master of the house and she is my helpmeet.

rachelwydle · 31-35, F

@hippyjoe1955

Wow, congratulations on 40 years. I'm glad you two have found something that works for you!

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

@rachelwydle Yes we would not have made it otherwise.

SW-User

A mixed view I suppose. I'm for doing whatever gets the house in order and me on the couch being lazy in the quickest and most efficient manner.

caccoon · 36-40

I believe in two people making a decision together about what's best for both of them.

But for myself, I will never marry.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

@caccoon Why would you never marry? You are a fine woman.

caccoon · 36-40

@PoetryNEmotion I want to have a dedicated partnership, but the concept of marriage is not for me!

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Fernie · F

that crap went out with shaboom!

rachelwydle · 31-35, F

@Fernie

The who?

Fernie · F

@rachelwydle Oh, I see you are a fetus compared to me...I mean it isn't the 50's anymore

rachelwydle · 31-35, F

Sorry, one more time. My eyeballs haven't developed yet.

Rain95 · 26-30, M

South Korea still belives in traditional gender roles.

MrsKatherineArch · 41-45, F

Mostly traditional, but with some nods to modern thinking.

LomeMarsupial

Everyone should experience alimony at least once in their life

Bluesky52 · 61-69, M

traditional,

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Equal

bijouxbroussard · F

No, that wouldn’t work for me. I’ve watched my parents’ marriage as an example of a union of equals; both worked outside the home, both cooked, cleaned and took care of us, and when I was married my husband was agreeable to a similar arrangement.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Traditional, but not because it's traditional. I believe in some overlapping of roles.

DDonde · 31-35, M

I am not a fan of traditional gender roles in general. This extends to roles in marriage.

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