I am part of this online group that is pretty cool and accepting but they never wanna respond to me.

I get the feeling that they find me obnoxious and just dont wanna tell me or that they dont actually want me in their group but they dont wanna kick me out either its sorta saddening and i was wondering if any of you had any idea on how to gracefully approach the situation cause if not im just gonna do what i normally do which is try to figure out whats up and then solidify in their minds by being self destructive and defensive that they should kick me from their group or just tell me that they dont know why i am a part of it.