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Wurkoutgurl Honestly your best option is just to ignore them. Upsetting you is what they want. Driving a wedge is what they want. Every other weekend sounds like a good time to carry yourself off for some me time and let your husband deal with his kids, and when I say ignore them I mean it literally. Don’t speak to them unless absolutely necessary, and be out of their presence whenever possible.
Kids that age are contrary at best. Do you have children as well?