What would you do?

@questionWeaver really? Just stay quiet and hurt quietly? I'm trying to do that, it's not working too well

Yea ... did not mention I would be successful doing that ... just, that would be what I would do, If I am being true to me.

@questionWeaver I wish it was easier to do. I want to let it go, move past. But, every time I just feel hurt and angry

@Wurkoutgurl hurt and anger are real ... and almost impossible to offset with other good.

And it builds

And there are limits

Venting only helps so much

@questionWeaver yeah, I am finding this out. It's building....and I just wonder what my limit will be. And no amount of discussion with him about changes anything. 😞

@Wurkoutgurl yes ... you need the solution that does not exist ... He seeks the solution which can not be found.

And you both tolerate the lack of solution.

You do have a limit

@questionWeaver his solution is to ignore or downplay it. I'm thinking counseling is next step. He doesn't take my feelings regarding this seriously.

@Wurkoutgurl his solutions are not solutions ... they are his lack of having a solution ... a solution includes your feelings ... and a real behavior change for the kids.

Am just guessing ... but the kids probably do not respect him either. Which is not good for the kids.

So, he is in a tough spot ... without counseling or heavenly assistance ... He has a devolving status quo.

Wonder if he realises it?

@questionWeaver actually, they do respect him. It's just me they don't

@questionWeaver and yes, he sees it. I tell him about it. They've said it to him and me. They don't and won't ever respect me. And can't even give a reason why.

@Wurkoutgurl Then something is missing ... it makes no sense that he would facilitate their disrespect and your discomfort ... no gain there.

He is not communicating

@questionWeaver only thing I can come up with is he doesn't want to be seen as the mean dad. I really don't get it. I have kids too. I would never let them act like that. They don't act like that. They are very respectful to my husband. If they aren't and he disciplines them I back him 100%

@Wurkoutgurl Well ... if nothing changes, it will continue

@questionWeaver yeah. I'm just trying to figure out how to live with it

@Wurkoutgurl and that is tough ... love is the answer

@questionWeaver tequila might be my answer tonight. Tired of feeling sad. I'm not a sad person...this feeling sucks

@Wurkoutgurl

@questionWeaver my most favorite drink!! You just made me smile! ❤️❤️

This is good

@questionWeaver thanks ❤️