It was good while it lasted

@TexChik Yea. I never wanted it to be like this. Nobody does. Including him. I wish things were different. If only our spouses were doing what they should be doing. What we did was wrong, but what our spouses did were equally wrong too. hmm I can't win no matter what. Divorce is not an option for both of us

@Pygmy Are you two in love ?

We are. But we can't be together. I can't let the kids to suffer without a dad. He won't feel happy leaving them too. We are really good together but it is not meant to be.

@Pygmy so ... you have a delimma . Either you have to break it off and break your heart , or you get much better at sneaking time together ... so that no one notices

His wife found out. So we have to end it.

@Pygmy and you are pretty torn up over it ? I’m sorry . Heartache is a terrible pain

Yea. It is expected though. We know someday this will end. Either by death, by own choice or by forced. If it meant to be... it will be.

@Pygmy So, you wouldn't have ended the cheating if his wife hadn't found out? You speak as if it "just happened" and you two had no CHOICE but to cheat on your spouses? You both CHOSE to be selfish, cowardly cheaters...now you are whining and blaming the people you have been so disloyal to...like that was the ONLY way to deal with the problems you both have in your relationships. I have zero sympathy for you....zero. You cannot blame anyone else for your very bad decision

@Fernie Gosh, I am sorry that you are feeling it more for me. lol. I am not expecting any sympathy from anyone. I know what I did is wrong. Thanks for spending some time reading though :)

@Pygmy True . Be careful ! Sorry for your pain

@Pygmy ehbdont worry about her , if you were a liberal, Fernie would Commend you

@TexChik It is alright. I completely understand my post would create some disagreement from others. Some might be a victim or had been cheated on, so they react that way. Some might want to just bash people up. I am no saint. I would bash myself too a few years ago reading this post. I welcome people's view; good or bad. Thank you for being nice and kind in your comments. It reflects the person you are :)

@Pygmy 😉 I am the most committed monogamous loving wife I can be . But my husband is also that way ... he’s involved in our marriage too and we are still in love . I am thankful every second for my marriage , it makes all the difference . But if he had checked out , let himself go physically , and didn’t show much interest in me ... I can see how your situation could happen . And I have enough faults , who am I to judge ? 😁. Don’t be so hard on yourself .