Ex bf still continues his smear campaign after a year. I can help feeling bad. What should I do?

Was at dinner with a friend of mine. Two girls came into the restaurant who were friends of my ex who kept pointing at me (they whispered ‘that’s her, she is the crazy one..etc’). They even sat close to us (maybe to hear what we were saying) and then left. It’s been a year but it still hurts every time. A few people I have met have then without any reason removed me from social media/avoided saying hi to me after- I’m sure it has something to do with him. It really is not pleasant. Specially seeing as he seems happy now with someone new (seems like he is wining) and made me look like I’m the crazy one.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

Seriously, I think there’s only one way to deal with this and stay sane.

First place, anybody who puffs you off because of a rumor from an ex wouldn’t have been of much value anyway. Small loss.

Nobody with any sense buys what an ex says about character.

In a case like the girls in the restaurant, you can either ignore them (channel Grace Kelly for the regal dignity) or walk right up and ask if there was something they wanted to know. (Don’t do this if they’re wearing gang colors or have knives stuck in the top of their hooker boots.)

In the grand scheme of things, the ex and his harem of fright queens is of no significance to you. Once they get that idea...they're not getting to you, it’ll get boring and they’ll stop.