What is the foundation of love for you

@Peppa I agree that lust and passion are important to a relationship...but to me that's secondary because there are and may arise circumstances where sexual intimacy isn't or may become no longer an option and without all the rest of the other qualities the relationship could very well collapse. 🤠

@indyjoe I see where you're coming from but I think in the younger years when couples are at their peak they need that lust. I also agree that lust can't be without all the other things mentioned. Not the kind that is conducive to a long term relationship. For me if the sex is bad or sour everything else suffers especially because I am such a sexual person.

@Peppa I know where you're coming from, I've always been a very sexual person myself. Truthfully I've never experienced bad sex...I've experienced empty and unfulfilling sex but none I would actually call bad. I have learned over the years though that all of those relationship qualities we mentioned actually increase, enhance, and strengthen the lust and desire I feel for my wife.

@indyjoe I sure hope that'll happen with the right person... I'm struggling to meet the right guy. And I'm at a point now where I really want to meet my life partner.

@Peppa If you are like I was, your true life partner will come into your life when you least expect it, he may already be right there in front of you and you just haven't realized it yet (and neither has he). It may take awhile, and you may go through a lot of hell as well as disappointments and let downs before you get there, Just remember that every experience both good and bad will only better prepare you and "season" you for that person when the time is right...I'm just talking from my own personal experience.

@indyjoe that may be so. As I don't have any friends it's safe to say I don't have any in the midst that I've not noticed. So I think I've got a long wait ahead of me

@Peppa Perhaps you do ( it took me 20 some years before it happened), but it's very possible it come happen sooner than you think or can imagine. You just have to keep your mind, heart, and eyes open. And don't be quick to dismiss someone just because they may not exactly fit your "ideal"...there have been many happy and successful relationships/marriages between people who would've never thought in a million years they'd ever fall for.

@indyjoe thank you so much for your words. Gosh... I think I've just been so eager. Honestly. :-)

@Peppa It's easy to do, believe me I haven't forgotten what it was like to be constantly alone and lonely...sometimes you almost feel desperate.😉