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Advice please. My girlfriend always flinches when I raise my hand up to hug her or grab hers

She'll actually cower a little before she realizes what is actually happening. 

Her past involves an abusive mother who broke her jaw and other parts and a big guy (prison record) re-broke it freshman year. Her boyfriend before me use to leave bruises and hurt her pretty bad and so she and him are done. 

I love her and it kills me when I scare her. I would never hurt her. 

How can I change this?

(I'm 17 and she's 16 until late June)
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Get her attention pssst, hey! Look her in the eyes. Smile. Tell her you love her and move slowly.

Its not that she doesn't trust you.

Old saying. Once burned, twice shy. She's been burned a lot. That takes a lonv time to go away, if ever.

Be gentle and patient. Let her snuggle if she wants.
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