Should I contact his ex - girlfriend?

I've been really thinking... I've been dating this man who's 40 and I asked him if he has ever been with a black girl and he explained to me he has and it was a few years ago. She's 3 years older than him... He said that was the time where he put his all in someone... I felt a little bit jealous but at the same time I felt really sad for her and him. He said things were going so great and she just cut him out his life. Blocked him everywhere. He drove by her place just to make sure she wasn't dead and she was there... Honestly that just made me feel so sad. How could she do that to him! He looks like he still hasn't recovered from it... meaning he still really likes her... He showed me a picture and she's really pretty, she has kids that he said he loved. I Know this sounds stupid. I'm not in the mood or rude or mean comments but what if I tried to contact her? Just to understand what was wrong. If she was scared because of how amazing he is. He is an amazing guy for sure... I don't think I'll last with him. He doesn't seem that interested or that invested. I feel kind of miniscule. I don't think he can trust me... but I kind of hope that maybe if I contact her. She'll change her mind about him. Quite honestly though, I'm afraid to do that because he has such a powerful personality, she most likely does as well and will become defensive or angry that I contacted her. I don't know. I know it sounds stupid. But he really seems like he loves her a lot. I know some of you might say don't do it... But I'm a really persuasive person. Maybe she was scared how good he was to her and her kids...

LadyGrace ·

This man, you must realize, it is not emotionally invested in you. It’s better to know the truth than carry-on. I cannot emphasize enough, that you must stay out of other people’s business. Their relationship has nothing to do with you. I’m not trying to be mean, but you need to stay out of their business. I hope you will see that it is clearly time to cut ties with this man and move on. You were only end up with a broken heart if you stay.

LadyGrace ·

Further, I know you will hate me for saying this, but I would say this to my own daughter. This man is way too old for you. I am not against people dating younger or older than themselves, but this is really too much. A man that age, thinks a lot differently than a person in their teens or twenties. Yes, when a man treat you or makes you think of yourself as being small or minuscule, that is definitely a red flag, telling you it’s time to move on.

PiceousPanda · 22-25, F

@SW-User we relate to everything. I think we could talk for hours about philosphy life politics. Even things... I enver experienced myself since im so young I understsnd hes surprised when i say stuff lol. Music is the only thing i feel confused on but i listen to whatever he wnats me to listen to :) I can barely relate to people my age. Besides of course school obviously lol. I feel so disconnected from reality from my life. I love talking with him. He feels like a bestfriend. I was surprised at how much we understood each other. Hes like an older version of my spirit. If your wondering why inlike him so much... He has an amazing mind. Ive never felt this comfortable and just... Felt this ease with someone. The only thing of is emotional maturity. And how shy i am. Which he seems to handle well.