I'm 17 and in a romantic relationship with a 40 year old. What should I do?

This question is for those who won't judge my relationship... If you feel you have to say something rude. Don't bother commenting.
Anyways... He's not a bad guy. At all... Originally i lied about my age and told him I was 18. Then eventually told him I was actually 17. He began to text me less and act a bit more different... More reserved so to speak and eventually he said he's willing to continue this but he has to protect himself. I look nothing like a child... I could pass for 20 if I could. The issue i have is im fustrated... I want to be with him but at the same time I'm scared of beong with him. If I leave i won't ever find a guy like him... If I stay... He most likely will die earlier than I want him to and hes a very active risk taking guy. I still would very much like to be in his life even if hes not my bf but what 40 year old wants to have a friendship with a 17 year old. He can barely text me. I doubt he'd want to ever meet again... I love him so much. You have no idea. :/ his intentions with me were never sexual... He flirted a bit when he thought I was 18 and then completely stopped that and just conversed with me after finding out I'm 17. I just don't know what to do or how to feel anymore. We met once and I want to meet him again... At his place. Not for sex. I want to know him deeper and have a closer relationship. Hes not a pedophile. Hes not a bad guy.

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ProdigalSummer · F

Like I said last night, the fact that you need to seek validation and defend the relationship in this way shows that deep down you are troubled by the age difference and that you have your doubts.

PiceousPanda · 26-30, F

@ProdigalSummer if you have to post a rude comment. You shouldnt have commented at all. I domt care for what u think about the age gap. Thats not what I care about because its not a problem! Im fustaryed for my own different reasons. Dont comment if u have something rude to say

kayoshin · 41-45, M

@PiceousPanda She was not ride at all and she just said something that is logical and common sense. She didn't demean you or the man in any way just pointed out to your obvious inner conflict. Try acting more mature if you like older men so much.

ProdigalSummer · F

@PiceousPanda sweetheart that was a respectful response. I expressed my concern for you and gently pointed out something that is obvious to many of us here.

I’m saving rude for this suitor of yours. Btw, the fact that he can barely text you and is hesitant to meet you in his home probably means he’s marrried. His behavior reeks of adultery.

YoMomma ·

@ProdigalSummer she made a relationship under false pretenses.. I don't think age is a factor here other than the fact that she is deemed a minor by law in most states here (but i may be biased because i married a 48 year old when i was 21..) 😒

I think she's just freaking out because she wants him and he is distancing himself from her (for legal reasons) but she is taking it personally???

That's my opinion anyway..

ProdigalSummer · F

@YoMomma that could very well be true.

PiceousPanda · 26-30, F

@YoMomma h le still wants to know me and meet up. Im not offended that hr wants to protect himself at all... I support it. Nothing to di with that at all

PiceousPanda · 26-30, F

@kayoshin im still 17. Never said i was mature. We have similar minds that work in a common direction but Im still 17. Hes 40.