Now or Wait?

I’m so desperate to have a baby and so is my partner but he keeps telling me to wait but I can’t help how I’m feeling I’m trying not to think about it but it’s all I can think about it’s my only wish in life. I have a career I love my job but my dream is to be a mum. He knows how much I want it, I dream a lot about it too, being pregnant/having a baby when I wake up I sometimes cry. How do I get control over this desire? Or should I have a baby now? I’m 22 I know I’m young and need to live my life I would like a couple of holidays first and to be selfish for a little longer but I can’t help feeling like this is my only reason for existence.

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SomeMichGuy · M

If he does not want it and your are SOOOO into it...this is a bad mismatch. Please do not try to get him to get you pregnant on the sly, bc I would suspect it would break that relationship. Be not just a mom but a coparent with a father who wants to be one; the world has too many "I really did NOT want this" parents.

I think you need to have a serious talk with him about how HUGE this is for you.

But perhaps you need to first take a step back and ask why it seems so huge to you...? If you have seen defiant gurls aged 14ish on tv saying that are going to have babies, I suspect that they are from families/communities where the mothers or grandmothers valiantly sacrificing to raise kids abandoned by fathers are accorded respect and honor. If you see prestige tied up in it...maybe you need to deal with that first.

Best of luck. 😊