Now or Wait?

I’m so desperate to have a baby and so is my partner but he keeps telling me to wait but I can’t help how I’m feeling I’m trying not to think about it but it’s all I can think about it’s my only wish in life. I have a career I love my job but my dream is to be a mum. He knows how much I want it, I dream a lot about it too, being pregnant/having a baby when I wake up I sometimes cry. How do I get control over this desire? Or should I have a baby now? I’m 22 I know I’m young and need to live my life I would like a couple of holidays first and to be selfish for a little longer but I can’t help feeling like this is my only reason for existence.

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Sazzio · 31-35, M

GO FOR IT! I should mention, being a mum is one thing but being a great mum? Just do not enter a toxic relationship! Google term and or "My mum always criticises me" to see the under lying effects. When your child is 20 plus, in a crisis or depressed they should be thinking of YOU as first point of contact.

What my mother did, it too late now for me n my sis to see her as an understanding being. We love her but thas about it! Ok criticism is one thing but 100% criticism is another. I even get criticized for my choice of friends, place rented,job!

Always encourage never criticise (unless they're off the moral path) guide them with an understanding through out their lives. Make you kids believe they can achieve their full potential. Right from an early age throughout their teen n beyond!

In the future you can say "I did my best" my mum cannot even utter "I tried." Ok good luck n I always like to advise new/ future parents not to enter toxic territory.

Wetlesxoxo · 26-30, F

I think we should go for it too! But how can we when he won’t agree 🙄 @Sazzio

SomeMichGuy · M

If he does not want it and your are SOOOO into it...this is a bad mismatch. Please do not try to get him to get you pregnant on the sly, bc I would suspect it would break that relationship. Be not just a mom but a coparent with a father who wants to be one; the world has too many "I really did NOT want this" parents.

I think you need to have a serious talk with him about how HUGE this is for you.

But perhaps you need to first take a step back and ask why it seems so huge to you...? If you have seen defiant gurls aged 14ish on tv saying that are going to have babies, I suspect that they are from families/communities where the mothers or grandmothers valiantly sacrificing to raise kids abandoned by fathers are accorded respect and honor. If you see prestige tied up in it...maybe you need to deal with that first.

Best of luck. 😊

bert199 · 51-55, M

Have him put a ring on that finger Or he’ll be raising that baby alone

Pdad49 · M

Just do it! He will knock you up! Then you can do the rest! You would look great with a baby bump!

Pdad49 · M

Go for it you would look so sexy with a baby bump!

Jeffjen · 36-40, C

Go for it asap!

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