2boredEPers · 31-35, C
Be a gentleman, but don’t get walked over either. Fine line between the two
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
* Emotions; facts and libido. Each has there place. DO NOT confuse them for each other !
* Respect your lady friend as you would want her to respect you.
* Discuss EVERYTHING ! I'm serious ! Family/friends/work/college/school/worries/likes/dislikes/plans/hopes/dreams/money/food/alcohol/sex/drugs/rock n roll. EVERYTHING ! Never again in your life will you meet a woman who is exactly at the same stage of discovering the world as you are, right now !
*Most relationships fail because each stops listening/talking to the other. DON'T be THAT guy !
*When it comes to sex. Consent is everything. Both for her AND you !
*There are several different methods of Contraception, so the 'I don't like using it' argument doesn't wash !
*Talk to your mum. REGULARLY ! She's seen you naked and wiped your @$$ ! So it's unlikely you'll ever shock her ! You have NO excuses for not letting her know the truth about what's going on in your life !
Parents know that even if they can't help in any situation you find yourself in, a problem shared between those who love you spreads the weight ! Remember that !
stuff like that.
* Respect your lady friend as you would want her to respect you.
* Discuss EVERYTHING ! I'm serious ! Family/friends/work/college/school/worries/likes/dislikes/plans/hopes/dreams/money/food/alcohol/sex/drugs/rock n roll. EVERYTHING ! Never again in your life will you meet a woman who is exactly at the same stage of discovering the world as you are, right now !
*Most relationships fail because each stops listening/talking to the other. DON'T be THAT guy !
*When it comes to sex. Consent is everything. Both for her AND you !
*There are several different methods of Contraception, so the 'I don't like using it' argument doesn't wash !
*Talk to your mum. REGULARLY ! She's seen you naked and wiped your @$$ ! So it's unlikely you'll ever shock her ! You have NO excuses for not letting her know the truth about what's going on in your life !
Parents know that even if they can't help in any situation you find yourself in, a problem shared between those who love you spreads the weight ! Remember that !
stuff like that.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Picklebobble2 you nailed it!! Thank you.
Chickie · F
@Picklebobble2 talk to her about what? Sex? Why?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@Chickie Because if this is his first relationship he needs a good idea of what consent is and more importantly what it ISN'T !
Warqueen · 36-40, F
Enjoy the beginnings :)
LyricalOne · F
Keep your puppet in your pants.
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bijouxbroussard · F
@Solenya I agree, but I don’t think it’s prudishness. Most kids are not ready for the responsibilities that go with being sexually active. Heck, many adults aren’t. 😏
@bijouxbroussard I have met quite a few of these adults you mention, and it makes me terrified for the future. But, as for my own part, I've no intention of making little Mini-Me's until I'm at least 30 or have my life together and have secured a future for my family.
bijouxbroussard · F
@Solenya Very wise. 😊
Mamapolo2016 · F
Make sure to put a helmet on that soldier.
Babies are from now on.
Dating is how you locate all the stepping stones before you cross life's raging river.
Want and need are different things.
Babies are from now on.
Dating is how you locate all the stepping stones before you cross life's raging river.
Want and need are different things.
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MildlyInappropriate · 56-60, M
Be kind, be respectful to her and to her parents, and never pressure her to do anything with which she is uncomfortable. This is the beginning of deeper romantic relationships, but certainly not the end - no need to get "married" today, just enjoy getting to know someone else in this type of relationship.
Plus all the good stuff everyone else has already said!
Plus all the good stuff everyone else has already said!
exexec · 70-79, C
The best advice was from my father when I got my driver's license and was leaving to pick up my girlfriend for our first "alone" date: "Don't forget when you're driving that she is the most important person in the world. Get her home safely."
Mamapolo2016 · F
@exexec nice
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@exexec excellent advice, thank you
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
You won't ever do anything you don't feel sure about only to satisfy your partner. And respect her as much as you'd want to be respected. Always talk your problems through and always be honest.
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
You're both gonna overreact to stuff. Ride it out.
Don't push her more than she's ready and the same goes for you. Nobody is owed sex.
Communicate and be honest where it's important.
Don't push her more than she's ready and the same goes for you. Nobody is owed sex.
Communicate and be honest where it's important.
Evened · 51-55, M
That it's probably not the love of his life, even if it feels like it.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Evened indeed
Jlhzfromep · M
Tell him not to do anything he wouldn’t feel comfortable telling you all about
Not that he would listen to me but
Be respectful.
Listen to her and show interest in what she says. Do not laugh it off
Keep your excitement in your pants.
Be courteous.
Be respectful.
Listen to her and show interest in what she says. Do not laugh it off
Keep your excitement in your pants.
Be courteous.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Elandra77 perfect. The listening is so important. I hope he doesn’t stop listening to me before I get to the keep it in your pants part 😂
@Fallflower I hope so to for your sake. It would be nice if he was courteous and showed a bit a empathy, or compassion towards you. That maybe expecting much at 17. Do try to have a nice a time and impress upon him (of needed) that no means no.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Elandra77 I was kidding, he’s a very good kid but I know some things must be said out loud, including no means no. Thanks 👍
Itsmrsockmonkey · M
Treat her with respect
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Itsmrsockmonkey yes, good one for sure
Silentangel · 31-35, F
Take it slow, don'tget drunk Saying no is okay :)
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GeniUs · 56-60, M
Be yourself, if it goes wrong explain what you were trying to do/say. If you run out of things to say, say, 'I can't think of anything else to say, is it time to cuddle?'
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
Relax, take it slow, and forget the expectations. Let yourself enjoy without pressure, and NO putting pressure on the girl.
Lackwittyname · M
@frequentlyme Pretty much this exactly, and to add to it, be yourself, do not try to be anything that is not true to you.
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@Lackwittyname Absolutely! Be yourself.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
How to properly use a comdom!
djjohnson · 41-45, M
Learn how to treat someone besides yourself right. Be just as forgiving for their mistakes as you want them to be for yours. But if they aren't forgiving then run away.
DreamingOfSummer · 26-30, F
Will he listen to whatever advice you give anyway? I know I was WAY smarter than my parents at 17. 🙄
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@DreamingOfSummer he is definitely way smarter than me... in math and engineering skills!
DreamingOfSummer · 26-30, F
@Fallflower I was being totally sarcastic, of course!
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@DreamingOfSummer trust me your sarcasm was not lost on me ☺️
ConcealMySins · 22-25, M
Use condoms ? Just let them love it up lol
barbershoplover · F
Don’t get her pregnant

SW-User
I was going to say be careful think about what ever you do now could backfire in the future! But Trump!? So dont bother.

SW-User
It's your first experience... don't go over the top, don't make a big mistake... and wait until you're married... them's the rules that work...
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@SW-User Waiting till marriage usually means marrying young, which isn’t always ideal either.
I’m not really a constraining kind of parent. I want them to experience things, but of course, safety first.
I’m not really a constraining kind of parent. I want them to experience things, but of course, safety first.

SW-User
@Fallflower There's a lot of truth to that... even with two sides to the story...
So... let him get his world rocked a few times... till then...
So... let him get his world rocked a few times... till then...

SW-User
@Fallflower so how did he take the advice?
1GHOST · M
Make sure mom (Fallflower) will let the 2 of you move in when you get her preg. lol
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@1GHOST is that like reverse psychology or something
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Fallflower what did he say?
1GHOST · M
@Fallflower hehehehh well it could be OR it could be the truth / " Ummmmm heeeey .....uh ..mom ..see i love her and ...i think shes pregnant and her parents kicked her out ...i was thinking we could move in here .... OH just till we fine a place ....????? PLEASE ??
User41 · 36-40, M
If she says she can crush your head with her thighs
BELIEVE HER AN RUN AWAY
BELIEVE HER AN RUN AWAY

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@Fallflower Lol... how does he know that?
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@SW-User he has common sense.

SW-User
Well I guess that is good.
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SW-User
Don’t have a girlfriend. Lol.

SW-User
Just take him to see 50 Shades...
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@SW-User ew
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
Depends on if they are a boy or a girl..
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
Break up, he likely chose wrong
Get himself a bf instead ???
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Georgimy he’d be so confused by that advice

SW-User
Are you his mom?
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AnthonyJ · 61-69, M
Listen. Be respectful. Use a condom.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@AnthonyJ love it.
AnthonyJ · 61-69, M
@Fallflower 🙂
ExtremeNext · 36-40
Pound her good
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
Make sure you have the same beliefs
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@MartinTheFirst like religious and political? Is this coming from experience?
@MartinTheFirst A point few would think of, yet an excellent one.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Solenya That's how my last relationship ended, so yeah.
melbeacher · 61-69, M
Wear a condom
polyandrym66 · 70-79, M
Anal sex ONLY... No condoms to show her how much you care is a way that she can feel you inside her. Focus on oral sex on her..
TheProphet · M
Fuck her often and keep her happy.
Chickie · F
@TheProphet There's no such as fuck girls it's called sluts. Fuck boys are sluts that's what that means!
ConcealMySins · 22-25, M
@Chickie 🆗️🆒️
TheProphet · M
@Chickie Yes I know that and there are plenty of slutty girls. I have no problems with girls that like fucking as much as we do.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
She's full of it. Not on the pill. Wrap that rascal!
Chickie · F
I wouldn't recommend being sexually active while still in highschool but if they are going to fuck be smart about it and if a girl is comfortable with her sexuality and wants have sex she should fuck as many fuck boys as she wants but they don't get the privilege of being treated like boyfriend and keep the good boys that don't sleep around they are for marriage.
"Don't need them don't breed them"
"Don't need them don't breed them"
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@Chickie this is way beyond anything I can tell my son directly without causing permanent brain damage to both of us
MethDozer · M
Wear a condom and have fun.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@MethDozer yeah, I guess I have to go there...
MethDozer · M
@Fallflower OH NO.. Not from Mom.
Fallflower · 46-50, F
@MethDozer his dad is too useless to rely on for this