Dating someone because you feel compelled to do it

Why would you feel that you'd ask ?
Because this guy is literally perfect. Imagine all the qualities a perfect respectable man should have. Well that's him.
The whole class is supporting it. My friends are supporting it. Heck, even the teachers.
He's cute, funny, nice...and you know everything.
He says he's in love with me. I give him a whole list on what's wrong with me, from crippling depression, to commitment issues, passing by social anxiety. Buuuuut he doesn't care. He says he accepts anything.
I appreciate him really. I like him.

But...I've never been in a relationship. I don't like it. I'd feel highly uncomfortable in one. And I don't want him.
But I don't want to be the one rejecting the nice guy.
So I guess I will just say yes, and say where it will lead me.
Not a big deal.
Who knows

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Yeah. Guys might be sex hounds, but they are also extremely forgiving on character defects.

Try it out. Abandon all that fear and anxiety and just take a risk, imo.

Dating is not making a lifetime commitment. Try him out and see how it goes. You'll lose nothing from chilling with him awhile and seeing if any interest does develop. Or leave whenever you want.

I'm typically very anti-monogamy, but if you've never even been in a relationship, then why not try one out, now?

Randomlygenerated · 26-30, F

This is entirely your decision to make but my gut is screaming NO NO NO NO NO. I did this once. It was absolutely horrible. He was such a 'nice guy' but I eventually discovered that he was actually using that to manipulate and guilt trip me. I learned that if someone really is a 'nice guy' he will have enough respect for you to NOT plead and wrangle his way into a relationship; he will be big enough to step back, however much it hurts him, because the last thing he would want to do is hurt you.

IvanKaramazov

Baaaaaad idea, but your call.

HermannFegelein · 26-30, M

I know the feeling. I've turned down many relationships because I feel like i wouldn't like it despite how hot or intelligent the chick was. My friends would hate me for it because they would say that i wasted an opportunity.

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Teirdalin · 31-35

Just be careful, sometimes one might just seem perfect on the outside.

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

We all deserve someone who wants us. If you don’t want him leave him alone.

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