Drowned into insecurity. Need advice

I am in a relationship with a girl who loves me a lot, cares for me. But wherever she goes she gets a proposal from guys even from her good friends who knows she is in a happy relationship. She doesn't hide it from me but she works with them day and night and I am in merchant Navy so I am off the grid for 7-8 months and they are there for her. I am just worried that they will take her from me and I don't want to loose her. Please any advice will be helpful.

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SW-User

Whatever you do, do not show insecurity cause that is a huge turn off! If she loves you , she can’t be bought off by other suitors and you just need to trust her!

Velgon · 31-35, M

@SW-User thank you so much for the advice. But when I know that the guy who had proposed to her is filling my space in my absence. Doing everything that I should have been doing and staying at night with her. I trust her but at the same time I think what if she is cheating on me how would I ever know. I am going mad.

SW-User

@Velgon Well there are reallyy no guarantees in life. You either have to trust her to do right by you or let her go! If a cheater, it will come out and then you will have to move on with a head held high realizing it happened the world over everyday!

Velgon · 31-35, M

@SW-User what if I never find out and she kept doing it. I'll hate that feeling more than any other in entire world. I just want to make sure there isn't anything going on. How can I do that?

SW-User

@Velgon well you can always hire a private investigator! But I think you might have this problem with any woman! If so... that’s sad!

Velgon · 31-35, M

Should I see a shrink about this problem. I am overly possesive, jealous and insecure and I want to get rid of this feeling.

SW-User

@Velgon oh now I understand. Why are you this way? Were you cheated on before? To enter any relationship like this, will be failure! I think you should work on yourself first! Yes, maybe see a therapist... get to the bottom of the problem! I wish you the best of luck!

Velgon · 31-35, M

Yes in my last relationship she cheated on me and since then it's been hard.

SW-User

@Velgon See a therapist and remember you can overcome this!!! But please consider this!!! She might be encouraging the men to flirt and carry on with her and enjoying it! That is not the kind of woman you want if you are looking for a one man woman!