Do you think being taken for granted is abuse?

@SW-User I was married once. Foolishly I married young, only 24yrs old. For seven years my young wife let me earn our only income and feed, clothe & house us all (we had 2 children together) while during the day while I was away at work she had a toy boy lover who was a part time taxi driver and a full time loser. It sure felt like abuse when I found out about it. It is not all about her sexual indiscretion. Sometimes people just fall into these things, but it was also about the things she did not do which did involve considerable afore- thought. If she had that much free time she could have looked for a part time job but she never did. She brought a dog home but never looked after it. She wanted total freedom without being able to pay for the consequences. Well, now she is free to do what ever she likes .....

@will999 Sounds like a really bad experience - I'm sorry you went through that, though I'm not sure it's that related to the comment/question above.

@SW-User I have spoken about being taken for granted being a form of abuse. Say it again then, what is the question?

I'm also a stay at home mom. But I most definitely don't have that kind of time. I often feel like Dobby the houseelf lol. I can't imagine having the time to cheat.

@SW-User You're entitled to disagree with me of course but it IS relevant to the question.

@darktippedrose Yes, That is a valid observation. A cheat of either gender deprives the entire family of their time, energy, resources and attention. It may not be violent by an ordinary definition but they depend on everyone else in the family to remain loyal, thereby abusing them.