Do you think being taken for granted is abuse?

Do you think that being taken for granted is no big deal? Or do you think its abusive?

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will999 · 70-79, M

Hello again darktippedrose 31-35, F. I have been taken for granted and to me it sure felt very much like abuse. My wife thought it was my job to feed, house and clothe us all even while she was off making babies with another man. It made me feel like a complete idiot for not putting his f_cking lights out when I first realized what was going on. If I had done that I would probably still be in the lockup today, and partly in denial because it was obviously not all his fault. I would dearly love to hammer that miserable worm's face into the ground but I can not afford the price I would have to pay for the pleasure. I had to let my EX go, not because I want her to suffer but because I want her to take responsibility for her own freely chosen actions. I still can't be sure she understands this. I only know that I dare not consider her half hearted and flippant offers of renewed "friendship" even for a minute. That relationship nearly destroyed me once and she could easily do it again if she really can not see the harm in it. Perhaps she regrets her mistake, I really don't know. To me it was a bigger mistake than David Warner's cricket ball tampering in South Africa and she has never apologised for the grief she caused me.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@will999 Hugs....I understand. My husband doesn't apologize at all. And he still cheats on me. Even talks about it from time to time. Or will offhandedly insult me and then tell me that's why he only has sex with other women. le sigh. I understand. you did what you did for your sanity and get out of that dark place.

will999 · 70-79, M

@darktippedrose I seem to recall you saying somewhere else that your husband only talks to you about religion. Some religious people can be thoughtless and extremely narrow minded. From the way you describe him he does not sound very spiritual to me. For some people even religion is mostly about material or physical things. How did you view his faith before you were married? I'll bet you don't think much of it now. Some christian monks were warriors that existed for the purpose of making "holy war" which is really a misnomer. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds of false argument. 2 Corinthians 10:4

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@will999 well I'm not Christian. The religious man he portrayed himself as, isn't what he really was. I think my husband is what you might call a religious sociopath. He uses religion to feel superior to others and such. He can only talk about religion to me. He'd laugh at me and say I'm distracting him from God and that he doesn't want to go to hell if I wanted to eat with him or watch a tv show or something.

Him and his friends kept things from me. And yes, if you are sooo religious that you're unreligious then chances are that you don't understand it. If being religious turns you into a jerk, you don't actually understand the point.