Should a woman be expected to handle the household virtually unassisted if she does not have to work a job?

I work hard, work a lot and make a lot of money (of which I see very little) I expect her to do everything for me - like she is my assistant - book doctor appointments, pick up the dry cleaning etc. I don't think it's problematic because I earn all the money. I offered to have a cleaning lady, have cooked meals brought in, to get an assistant to do my errands, and other people and methods to help lighten her load - she is too cheap to spend the money OR she still doesn't trust me around other women and won't bring on help. If she has been offered help and refused it I don't see why I then have to fucking do what I offered d to hire some person to do.@NudasPriest