In a 2nd marriage, is it normal for a woman with grown children to still prioritize over you?
51-55, M
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samanthabelle · 26-30, F
ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
@samanthabelle you know I wish I did
bijouxbroussard · F
@ButteAmerica There you really get used because she won’t have her own money.
samanthabelle · 26-30, F
@ButteAmerica then count her as number 2 and start looking for number 3
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ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
Yeah I'm putting her through school. The thought has crossed my mind
Cut her off (financially) you're definitely being used imo. She might even already have a bf/lover or whatever going on
ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
I thought that too. Lots of unaccounted for time, maybe she's not even with her son tonight
ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
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@ButteAmerica yeah...
put your foot down. you've got nothing to lose, it sounds like.
you deserve to be happy. so do what it takes.
best wishes for you.
put your foot down. you've got nothing to lose, it sounds like.
you deserve to be happy. so do what it takes.
best wishes for you.
Proudtobfrmwv · F
If her children are grown,they should have their own lives and not depend on their Mother as much.If she truly loved you,you would be her priority.Thats how I would feel if I ever got married again. It doesn't mean a woman would love het children less,it just means she has a life to lead too.
GypsyMiss · 46-50, F
With grown children? No.
My guess is there is a bit of an interdependence problem between her and her kids. Yuck. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but at this stage of life if she doesn't change her relationship style with her kids, she never will, and you will always be prioritised after them.
My guess is there is a bit of an interdependence problem between her and her kids. Yuck. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but at this stage of life if she doesn't change her relationship style with her kids, she never will, and you will always be prioritised after them.
bijouxbroussard · F
ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
@bijouxbroussard sorry...fixed it...prioritize. Her sons birthday was tonight. We,were on the way and he called and said he just wanted her to be there. I got dropped off in the driveway all dressed up. To be honest I feel like shit
bijouxbroussard · F
@ButteAmerica Oh, I’m sorry. No, I can’t imagine someone allowing an adult child to be rude to her husband. Sounds like a selfish brat who doesn’t care if his mother is lonely. And if she doesn’t put her foot down, she will be, often. 😒
ButteAmerica · 51-55, M
Sigh...yeah.