How bad is it that I get jealous when I see others in a relationship? So... I have received...

I used to be the same way a few years ago. Often times we may seek the approval of others to feel better about ourselves, which can include something such as being in a relationship. For me, surrounding myself with close friends helped me learn to stop worrying about relationships. That, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with being single.

Not sure if I even answered the question or just danced around it, but I hope it helped in some way.

pianoisland · 31-35, M

Being lonely hurts, I was the same way, even couples in movies would make me upset. I hated the hunger games because of that.

Its kind of one of those things you just go through, think of it as your last awkward phase before "adulthood".

Best thing I can recommend is to fall in love with yourself, be your own best friend, the happier you are with yourself the easier it is to turn a blind eye to other couples. Then you realize you're happy enough to wait for someone really interesting, not some dime-a-dozen cute girl who also played pokemon growing up. That was my problem at least haha.

FreshAirLover · 26-30, M

Well, not having friends is definitely tough. The only thing I can suggest (and others probably have told you this time and time again) is to put yourself out there. I don't have many friends myself because I lost so many from moving, so I find myself on sites like these trying to be a bit more open. I'm hoping that it helps me do the same offline, and so far it has. I've made a few solid friends that I hang out with on campus.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@SilverRedd... It probably does not feel like it; at least it doesn't for me, but at the same time, I genuinely think there is hope for us. I don't want to speak for you, but just being able to admit these feelings seems like a first step, as primitive as it may be... but still a literal first step. Hang in there!

Lutiey · 31-35, M

You gotta try and think about it logically, wasting all the energy into hating on other people who are minding their own business.

SW-User

I feel the same way :(

GrazedByTheVoid · M

stop wasting your time with such things..

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

It kind of helps FreshAir... ONE part of my problem is I don't have any friends (in mathematical terms, zero). So, I don't have that kind of support network to fall back on. But, yeah, accepting being single as a current state instead of a curse seems like a better way to navigate than feeling sorry for myself. Thanks.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

What do you recommend I put my time into @StrangeMotions?

Thanks piano; that makes sense.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yeah, man. I get it. And, I agree. It sucks. It makes me seem small-minded. Yet, the feeling is naturally there. I mean, it just comes; it's like a sickness. I hate it.