Do you think that part of hiding nothing from your spouse you can tell them your friend's secrets?

Some people think so.. I found out my friend's husband knows a lot of things.. I mean he's my friend too.. but he became my friend after his wife is.. and I'm way closer to her and I don't want to share everything with him..

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SW-User

Always assume couples talk about everything. It would be unfair to ask them to keep secrets from their significant others.

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estranged · 36-40, F

I respect your opinion @SW-User

SW-User

@estranged Thank you.

Fernie · F

@SW-User That was uncalled for. I have an opinion as well and I don't agree with you. Now you are in a snit. Very revealing

Fernie · F

That is a BIG pet peeve of mine. When I say "please don't tell another human being" I mean it... apparently a spouse is not a human being and the person I shared with goes home and blabs my secret. Makes me furious. It's happened too many times so now I'm specific..."not EVEN your SO!!" usually I hear " oh, he/she won't tell anyone" NO DAMMIT!!!

estranged · 36-40, F

Yes it's pissing me off @Fernie

Fernie · F

@estranged If they agreed/promised to not tell ANYONE then they tell their partner...they broke their promise...it's a betrayal...that is what I tell them...some get it and feel bad...some look like deer in the headlights

SW-User

You'll have to accept this is how your friend choses to be; she won't keep confidences but will discuss all with her husband

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Fernie · F

@SW-User I see it as a betrayal of trust and I will never accept that from a friend

SW-User

@estranged Not at all. Just how it is... She's not single

SW-User

@Fernie Better... Either accept as it is or don't confide

eMortal · M

Married people always end up telling everything to their partners. Women tend to overshare more than men. they always admit to their partner that they cheated. So what make you think she will keep Your secret safe? lol

estranged · 36-40, F

True.. must have been wrong to trust @eMortal

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

I always assume that people will tell their spouse what I just told them. SO if I don't want them to, I make a point to ask them to please don't tell anyone. I think that's fair.

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