Is it possible to truly love only one person forever?

Do you believe monogamy is a realistic and honest concept? KIM that monogamy and loyalty are two separate things. 💁

Inspired by Royalblue's question.

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Tatsumi · 31-35, M

Humans are classified as "serial monogamists." This is a joke, to me, because "serial monogamy" is a lot closer to polyamory than it is true monogamy.

Humans aren't monogamous. If they were, the divorce rate wouldn't be 60%. And "cheating" would't be so prevelant.

Monogamy is uust socially enforced. It tries to cover up nature--reject human nature and try to hide it under a rug, while saying, "Oh, *I'm* different," or, "*S/he's* different.*

Understanding this, there's no reason to stay with one person. Humans are most fulfilled and healthy when they bounce from one partner to the next, rarely staying with one partner for more than 6 months to 2 years. Or have multiple partners at the same time. People would be a lot healthier if they did it that way, instead of trying to delude themselves and try to cover up their instincts. That's how they sneak up on you. You can try to deny that the sun will go down. But, all it will do is surprise and disillusion you when it inevitably does.

F0X0NTHERUN · 26-30, F

@Tatsumi I agree with you in saying that human beings are not instinctively monogamous beings, but I believe we [i]can [/i]be happily devoted to one person forever if we disillusion ourselves from believing that we [i]should[/i] be.

It is this disillusion that causes us to second-guess our feelings for a person when we realize that we may be attracted to other people on multiple levels/certain levels. It's natural, but the way we portray "relationships" in society, much like you've described, has built a taboo around basic human attraction.

Accepting that, yes, there are literal billions of human beings and that no, you most likely will not be solely attracted/connected to ONE of those billions forever can actually help you build a stronger and more lasting relationship than pretending "We're different, we're just so in love and think of nobody but one another. Nobody else is attractive to me."

I mean, unless you're atypical or asexual.

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But I don't want STDs 😳@Tatsumi

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@SteelHands there's that too

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