Quick tip for anyone who is trying out online dating sites

Don't start your conversation with a compliment. Or a simple "hi", "sup", "what are you doing". Or asking the other for pics/their snapchat/etc.

You'd think people would be better at making people interested in talking to them than that

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CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

From someone who struggled with this for years, I get it, you start to feel frustrated and you stop putting in the effort to be appealing.

But yes of course you're exactly right, it's either obvious right off the bat that you're not putting in any effort ('hey') or that you're trying too hard, indicating desperation ('I've just read every one of your stories, I love your style! you're amazing!'). It's difficult to introduce yourself without going down either of these avenues, or sounding like you're bragging.

NorthernRoses · 26-30, F

@CheshireCatalyst The "desperation" route is waaay preferable. At least that shows that they've read your profile.

The ones I actually answer are typically the ones who have very obviously read something on my profile, and find something to talk/discuss about from there.

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@NorthernRoses Put yourself in the shoes, though, of a guy who has done that fifty times, but gets no responses because he's just a drop in the ocean of guys doing exactly the same thing. It feels humiliating after a while to be ignored. It's hard to stand out.