My friend keeps going back to her lame ex

i feel like im 12 and having this problem but my friend who is even older than me has an on again off again relationship with her bf and every time i hear the same shit:

"I hate him"
"We can never be together again after this..."
"There's no way im going back"

But she does.

Dating time: 8 months. off and on like a bathroom light during that time.

I dont know how im supposed to react the next time he leaves her and she's crying about it. Am i a bad friend for being sick of the drama? ive told her to leave and she crawls back. the next time "its over" what do i do? I can't even listen to her be miserable when clearly that's what she's choosing every single time despite what everyone advised her to - leave the ass.

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Sohryuden · 31-35, F

Isn't this really her problem at this point? You've done all you could for her, and have clearly been by her side. But she's not listening, and continues to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. You've got every right to be annoyed. She lacks any self-control, and perhaps self-esteem?...

Straight up tell her how you feel about this whole thing, even if it pisses her off, because this is getting out of hand...maybe tough love is what she actually needs.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

@Sohryuden Ya - like i mentioned to someone else up above, we will be at the same social engagement a few weeks from now so i wasn't rude about it. But this isn't the end of it. I'm sure of it. The next time idk what i will say though.