If you were in a serious relationship and you learned that your partner cheated on you one drunken night, could you forgive him/her?

@YourMomsSecretCrush
...which means you don't actually forgive them, you just distance yourself from them.

@swirlie it means, I forgive them for what they have done. I just dont care to be a part of that relationship any longer. it means, I have better options than being in a relationship with that person.

@YourMomsSecretCrush
But if you're not married to that person, why do you think you each have exclusive ownership of each other just because you're dating them?

@swirlie i dont have exclusive ownership of her........ she can leave out any time she gets ready. any time. and she knows it. and its okay. because there are many many fish in the sea.

@YourMomsSecretCrush
Undoubtedly your friend would have had other relationships before she met you, so why do they not count as "cheating" before you met her?

@swirlie we both had plenty of relationships before we met each other. i dont think she looks at my past relationships as cheating and i dont look at her past as cheating. when you meet someone at age 50, you know they have had a past. we both have pasts. i was married twice and also engaged once, four kids, but she has accepted that. she was married for 25 years, two kids, and i have accepted that.

@YourMomsSecretCrush
...okay, that's fine. But at what point is a line drawn in the sand that separates an act of perceived 'cheating' from your partner just 'running her own game'?

At what point would she be officially accused of cheating, versus doing her own thing?

@swirlie she can do all that....... just not with me. and she has told me the same thing........ i can live that life if i want to....... just not with her.

@YourMomsSecretCrush
You're repeating yourself now and you're not answering my question.

Where is the line in the sand drawn? At what point in your relationship after you'd first met her is what I'm asking.

@swirlie it probably varies from relationship to relationship. but, in this particular one, it was after about a year when we moved in together.

@YourMomsSecretCrush
Okay, fair enough. When you move in together, that pretty much creates an understanding within a relationship and yes, I would agree.