Will my betrayal trauma carry into my new relationship?

My ex cheated on my and I found out on his phone. Whenever I see my ex and his phone I cry and shake and get kind of an anxiety type feeling. Will these feelings carry themselves into a new relationship with someone else? When I see other peoples phones now will I feel the same way? How can I work on this?

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updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well not everyone cheats and to hold that against a new person is wrong and bad because before you get to know them you already think they might cheat on me? The is why you need to wait and get your ex out of your system before letting someone else in.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

How do I get him out of my system? Just by waiting? @updown2020

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@Fifidog Well you could have a good cry or a good scream or write it all down and burn it. The longer you allow him to take space in your head the longer he wins and that should never happen you must come out on top.