Will my betrayal trauma carry into my new relationship?

@in10RjFox I agree with you on that however don’t you think there are certain behaviours shown by the partner that would make someone feel like they SHOULD check the phone? And that some of those little red flags shouldn’t be ignored?

For example: if someone ignored their suspicions that their partner was cheating, what if they risked ending up with a disease or something? People need to know what’s going on as soon as they have the the access to find out, in order to protect themselves. What If they were planning to have a child together? Invest in something financially…etc. I just don’t believe in going through phones either though. So I think if I truly thought someone might be hiding something, I’d probably just end the relationship. What are they gonna do, admit they’re cheating to me if they’ve already been lying the entire time? And what am I gonna do, not say anything and ignore my intuition and live in a state of anxiety and uncertainty for the rest of my life? There’s no good outcome in that situation if someone attempts to be quiet and stay.

@in10RjFox it's not a phobia, as such - it's emotional trauma from being betrayed .
Yes, phobias can stem from trauma, but they are usually a fear that is so long lasting, the initial trauma has been forgotten.
Since this is recent, and they know where the fear is from, it's more a trauma response.

@OogieBoogie A phobia is an uncontrollable, irrational, and lasting fear of a certain object, situation, or activity. This fear can be so overwhelming that a person may go to great lengths to avoid the source of this fear. One response can be a panic attack. This is a sudden, intense fear that lasts for several minutes.

And I am saying she has already developed the phobia and it will carry to the next relationship.