Bf hiding cheating with passcode

My bf changed him passcode cause he’s cheating I found out and I know this is why he changed his passcode because it’s been the same for the last 8 years. He doesn’t know that I know he changed it. Should I bring it up, let it slide, mention something?

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Andromedanian · 26-30, M

You mean his phone passcode?

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Andromedanian yes so I checked his phone right before he changed the passcode and locked me out. I have a feeling he locked his phone cause I looked but he’s also not in the clear cause of what I saw. I have a feeling he locked his phone so I don’t see him flirting with this woman. He locks his phone so I don’t get mad at what I see. I consider it that he cheated on me but I want your opinion if you consider this cheating. do you consider it cheating when you know what your doing is wrong cause your in a relationship asking this person on social media when they come to your state to visit sometime they wanna take you on a date cause they think your attractive then you do everything you can to hide it from your partner

Andromedanian · 26-30, M

@Fifidog I think as bad as this answer may be, it is neither of those possibilities and at the same time both.
I've done it in the past, when I've had really toxic partners who take everything to the extreme, like, girls that get mad at you because you were chatting with your sister and it was actually your sister. That's what I resort to, because it just brings more trouble to the relationship, the more trust you give them, the more they try to control you, not saying you're like that necessarily, just exemplifying.

So, I wouldn't jump to conclusions until you have full confirmation