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To be betrayed

After thirty years of marriage I was delivered a blow that has forever knocked the wind out of my spirit. My wife had been seeing a younger guy. All she said was that it wasn’t my fault she just wanted someone younger. As if that would ease the pain. It literally felt as if someone was kicking my insides out. I had to take some time off from work because I was unable to function. I would start weeping at any given moment for no reason. Well yes there was a reason, I loved her more than life itself. Maybe it would’ve been different if I had given her a reason for her action, but I hadn’t. I went into severe manic depression. I finally went to see a counselor which I must say did help over a period of time. I have lots of friends and without them I seriously doubt that I would’ve made it. The only problem I’m dealing with now is trust issues. I trusted her with my life. Can anyone blame me for feeling this way? I’m not ignorant enough to think that all women are like the one I had. It’s just a matter of finding the right one. I did not say this to receive pity cause I’m not like that. I only did it to let people know exactly how I feel about people that cheat. For the men that cheat on their wives, you’re not a man, but a far cry from being one. It takes a man to love in better or worse. For the women that cheat on their husbands, you’re nothing but a cheap slut that I wouldn’t give the time of day to. I hope this will give some a different point of view if they’re thinking about cheating on their spouses. Peace
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Did she give any indication that anything was wrong in your marriage? No clues? As for trust, once broken, it takes time to rebuild. That is on you, my friend and on your heart. I think cheating could mostly be prevented with honesty and clear communication. If one looks outside one's relationship for things that should be within, it will only lead to trouble. If problems cannot be resolved, people should be honest and leave. Too bad by then children are involved. You're a good guy. Sorry you got hurt.
Waymor · M
@PoetryNEmotion I’ve always believed in the saying there’s always two sides to every story. I’d be a fool to place myself upon a pedestal and say I’m without blemish. However in this respect I’ve never given her a reason to leave me for someone else. I’d gladly be the first one in line for confession. I did ask her what it was that I’d done. Because I was gonna change whatever it was. She only said that she wanted someone younger. Should I had pressed for more?
@Waymor I would have asked more questions. She had no honesty nor wanted the marriage. Perhaps the fault lays with her. You are rid of her. That is for the best. Now you can be happy and find a lasting love.
Waymor · M
@PoetryNEmotion I guess you’re probably right. I was so dazed and confused at the time. I am glad that I never made a scene though.
@Waymor You have the right to all the feelings you have. You have to work through them. Then you can move forward. You can do this. Take all the time you need. You will meet someone when the time is right. A single life is new for you.