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@DearAmbellina2113 they USUALLY reflect what they see/endure. Obviously not in every case… but I assume in most cases, if your child is beating on you, someone has been beating on them or they have seen someone else beating on you

@WaryWitchWandering true but a lot of the abuse is at the hands of another child not an adult.

@dikplz 🤔 huh?

@WaryWitchWandering did you know that 40% of all child abuse cases consist of children abusing other children?

@dikplz I mean I’m sure… but yet again, they learned it from somewhere

@WaryWitchWandering so what! Most adult abusers where abused as a child. Why are there no consequences for children who abuse other children or adults?

@dikplz because it’s not their fault, and they don’t have the emotional or physical maturity to be held accountable

And some children ARE held in “juvenile jail” or a psych ward.

Im not sure what you mean by this or if you fully understand children and their development.

@WaryWitchWandering it is their fault. They purposely damaged another child the way they were damaging. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that getting burnt hurts. A child has sense enough to know not to burn another child. I dont know why it so easy to make an excuse for a child when we have adults with child brains who abuse children for the most part.

@WaryWitchWandering I understand that these educators who dont have kids and think they know them clearly have not worked with kids directly but are writing books under the assumption it works. They say babies dont know how to be manipulative when that's one of the first things they learn. Children throw tantrums because they are manipulating you. They know if the cry and scream and yell bloody murder they will more than likely get what they want immediately. That is a learned behavior. Some children learn to use that tool much better than others because they have been allowed to get away with it by adults who believe that behavior is acceptable because "they're just kids".

@dikplz I have children

Manipulation is something ALL humans do to a point.. and yes, children do it naturally

But we guide them, and shift behaviors. I talk to my children about their feelings and behaviors. I work my ass off to be sure my tiny humans won’t grow to be monsters or become easily gobbled up by monsters

That’s how I do it anyway. I have two children, and they don’t go around “damaging” anyone or anything. The worst that’s happened is maybe breaking their own toys 🤷🏻‍♀️ (And not with intent)

You seem to either have some weird dislike for children, or a weird view of them (either from experience/observation of those around you)

Children need to learn and have guidance, they don’t know yet how to act/react to situations. Their brains aren’t fully developed. Their feelings feel huge.

I don’t personally know any kids that are completely “cruel” or act with malicious intent. I am not around a ton of children… I just deal with my own and my nieces and nephews

@WaryWitchWandering I teach preschoolers for a living and while I love kids I can assure you what I am telling you these are things I've seen and dealt with since I started working with kids.

@DearAmbellina2113 Yep, but no disciplined kid is acting that way. I got beatings but my siblings didn't and they are disrespectful younger brother is manipulative af and I try to knock his ego down by making him feel little like he does to me for no reason and my mom calls me names he's only 2 years younger than me yet is babied so bad he's lucky if he even gets a slap makes me soo mad when she awards him and comforts him from her "out of control" when we both know how she got down with me cords, wooden plates, glass. Just don't understand why bad kids don't get punished but the good ones do