Avaalexis36 · 36-40, F
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Thank you @Avaalexis36
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
Very true!
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Indeed @VeraSara
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Not me ....copied from my feeds @Casheyane
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I tried to meet people where they are not try to bring them up to any expectations that I may have.
I only ask that they're not cruel and I won't stand somebody trying to break down my boundaries that's the only time I would walk away from someone.
We do have to keep our own boundaries our own standards and we can't expect people to be what we want them to be or think we deserve ,in my opinion.
I don't think that's what you're saying you're talking about accountability and we all need accountability.
I only ask that they're not cruel and I won't stand somebody trying to break down my boundaries that's the only time I would walk away from someone.
We do have to keep our own boundaries our own standards and we can't expect people to be what we want them to be or think we deserve ,in my opinion.
I don't think that's what you're saying you're talking about accountability and we all need accountability.
Casheyane · 31-35, F
@Justmeraeagain He's talking about accountability to oneself. That you don't base your worth on how others treat you or the words they say to you.
Example, person A treats person B in the best way he can based on his own experience.
But maybe without meaning to, it doesn't come that way to Person B. Maybe there are times when person B still feels she isn't being treated right so she ends up getting hurt and disappointed, and thinking she deserves better.
The point is that person A is his own person. And person B is her own person.
They each should know that their own self worth is in tact, regardless of how others try to make them feel, whether those others do it intentionally or not.
In this example, they can talk and explain how they wish to be treated by each other and see if it could be better. Or person A can decide to be with someone who appreciates his efforts more in his standards, and person B can decide to be with someone who treats her the way she wants to be treated in her standards.
Point is sometimes people mean well. But they still fall short to our standards. So don't get hurt and think you're any less important than you are by what happens or is done or said to you. Your self worth is in tact. But remember too, that you teach people how to treat you by what you accept and what you put a stop to. Your choice on what you allow shows people how you see your own worth. Make sure the people you keep around treat you right. That would show them you're important to yourself. And the right people would respect you for it.
That's basically it.
Example, person A treats person B in the best way he can based on his own experience.
But maybe without meaning to, it doesn't come that way to Person B. Maybe there are times when person B still feels she isn't being treated right so she ends up getting hurt and disappointed, and thinking she deserves better.
The point is that person A is his own person. And person B is her own person.
They each should know that their own self worth is in tact, regardless of how others try to make them feel, whether those others do it intentionally or not.
In this example, they can talk and explain how they wish to be treated by each other and see if it could be better. Or person A can decide to be with someone who appreciates his efforts more in his standards, and person B can decide to be with someone who treats her the way she wants to be treated in her standards.
Point is sometimes people mean well. But they still fall short to our standards. So don't get hurt and think you're any less important than you are by what happens or is done or said to you. Your self worth is in tact. But remember too, that you teach people how to treat you by what you accept and what you put a stop to. Your choice on what you allow shows people how you see your own worth. Make sure the people you keep around treat you right. That would show them you're important to yourself. And the right people would respect you for it.
That's basically it.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Casheyane I was not criticizing.
TexChik · F
Strangers can only take you at face value . Your appearance, demeanor, and personality is all the information they have to formulate in-the-moment assumptions about who you are. To assume anyone would immediately agree to your own personal estimation of your worth could be considered narcissistic and indicates you are guilty of doing to them what you believe they are doing to you.
You can only go with the tangibles upon first meetings and hopefully get to know the people better over time before making a determination of their value.
You can only go with the tangibles upon first meetings and hopefully get to know the people better over time before making a determination of their value.
