People do not always meet you at the level of your worth—they meet you at the level of who they are. Their actions reflect their capacity, their awareness, their limitations. It is not always a measure of what you deserve, but a mirror of what they can give.
This is where self-understanding becomes essential. If you base your value on how others treat you, you will constantly feel lacking. But when you recognize that your worth is something you define and uphold, everything begins to shift.
What you deserve is not something to wait for—it is something to practice. In how you speak to yourself, how you set boundaries, how you walk away from what diminishes you, and how you choose what you allow into your life.
In the end, self-worth is not given—it is lived. And when you embody it fully, you no longer chase what you deserve… you become the standard of it.
~ 𝓙𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓮𝔂 𝓸𝓯 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮
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I tried to meet people where they are not try to bring them up to any expectations that I may have. I only ask that they're not cruel and I won't stand somebody trying to break down my boundaries that's the only time I would walk away from someone.
We do have to keep our own boundaries our own standards and we can't expect people to be what we want them to be or think we deserve ,in my opinion. I don't think that's what you're saying you're talking about accountability and we all need accountability.
@Justmeraeagain He's talking about accountability to oneself. That you don't base your worth on how others treat you or the words they say to you.
Example, person A treats person B in the best way he can based on his own experience. But maybe without meaning to, it doesn't come that way to Person B. Maybe there are times when person B still feels she isn't being treated right so she ends up getting hurt and disappointed, and thinking she deserves better.
The point is that person A is his own person. And person B is her own person.
They each should know that their own self worth is in tact, regardless of how others try to make them feel, whether those others do it intentionally or not.
In this example, they can talk and explain how they wish to be treated by each other and see if it could be better. Or person A can decide to be with someone who appreciates his efforts more in his standards, and person B can decide to be with someone who treats her the way she wants to be treated in her standards.
Point is sometimes people mean well. But they still fall short to our standards. So don't get hurt and think you're any less important than you are by what happens or is done or said to you. Your self worth is in tact. But remember too, that you teach people how to treat you by what you accept and what you put a stop to. Your choice on what you allow shows people how you see your own worth. Make sure the people you keep around treat you right. That would show them you're important to yourself. And the right people would respect you for it.
