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writhe ·
What's wrong in the first place, if I may ask to get the full picture?
I think what works with me is being neutral and a little distant. Don't expose too much about yourself. Don't treat them much differently than women though, at least at the point of being noticeable. And keep your opinions about gender differences and relationships between men and women to yourself, until you get to know theirs first. And do not think of them as your responsibility. I think a lot of problems and inequalities arise from women being too available and too protective.
There's lots of talk about decentering men lately, but that requires decentering sex too, if you're straight.
I think what works with me is being neutral and a little distant. Don't expose too much about yourself. Don't treat them much differently than women though, at least at the point of being noticeable. And keep your opinions about gender differences and relationships between men and women to yourself, until you get to know theirs first. And do not think of them as your responsibility. I think a lot of problems and inequalities arise from women being too available and too protective.
There's lots of talk about decentering men lately, but that requires decentering sex too, if you're straight.