SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
Of course you care, you're writing an entire post about it.
It's natural to care.
It's natural to want to be close to someone you have feelings of love toward.
Most people don't leave relationships because they want to go.
It is often easier to settle for the Devil you know than no Devil at all.
Men like that can be charming like a hypnotic cobra.
But also, maybe you need to learn not to cry for yourself.
Cry for others, but never yourself.
I know it feels like it can't be helped, but you can catch the triggers.
You can't control your inbox, but you can control your outbox.
This sounds like a lesson you both need to learn.
It's part of maturing, it's part of growing depth and innerspace.
If you leave, then leave.
No song and dance. No show. Just leave.
That leaves space for him to face himself, face his inner misery, face the vacuous void that's making him do this.
And you focus on being happy, positive, and optimistic.
At the end of the day, you're only losing someone who makes your life hell. Robs you of your peace, your self-esteem, and clings to you like shit under your shoe.
Would you rather have a warm, friendly pet that gives you kisses, or are you going to keep going back to the cobra, foolishly expecting them to morph into that warm-blooded companion?
Life's too short for that noise, and there are literally billions of other people.
You don't need him, he needs you.
It's natural to care.
It's natural to want to be close to someone you have feelings of love toward.
Most people don't leave relationships because they want to go.
It is often easier to settle for the Devil you know than no Devil at all.
Men like that can be charming like a hypnotic cobra.
But also, maybe you need to learn not to cry for yourself.
Cry for others, but never yourself.
I know it feels like it can't be helped, but you can catch the triggers.
You can't control your inbox, but you can control your outbox.
This sounds like a lesson you both need to learn.
It's part of maturing, it's part of growing depth and innerspace.
If you leave, then leave.
No song and dance. No show. Just leave.
That leaves space for him to face himself, face his inner misery, face the vacuous void that's making him do this.
And you focus on being happy, positive, and optimistic.
At the end of the day, you're only losing someone who makes your life hell. Robs you of your peace, your self-esteem, and clings to you like shit under your shoe.
Would you rather have a warm, friendly pet that gives you kisses, or are you going to keep going back to the cobra, foolishly expecting them to morph into that warm-blooded companion?
Life's too short for that noise, and there are literally billions of other people.
You don't need him, he needs you.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
morrgin · F
@Notsimilarreally i used to think if I left it would force him to change and then I could come back. Now I know he'll probably try to change. But only because he wants me back. Not because he's decided to hold himself accountable for his actions or realized the trauma he's caused. He'll only be sad for himself.
I thought leaving was just hard because of the mental barriers a person has that get in the way, like thinking he really does care and he'll eventually realize how much he loves me. Now I see its also finances, housing, transportstion, children, and even pets.
But Im getting there. Sooner than later because staying one more day just might be one day too many and then its too late.
I thought leaving was just hard because of the mental barriers a person has that get in the way, like thinking he really does care and he'll eventually realize how much he loves me. Now I see its also finances, housing, transportstion, children, and even pets.
But Im getting there. Sooner than later because staying one more day just might be one day too many and then its too late.
nothereforpeople · F
Redman191145 · 46-50, M
Please get yourself out of that situation. No one deserves to be treated like that. People like that do not ever change they only hid it for a while but in the end they only get worse. You deserve someone who will respect and appreciate you. Your partner should always seek and try their best to build you up not break you down and never is it okay for someone to abuse you.
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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F