I don’t understand love I've been having convos with someone for weeks. We're both christians a...

SlippingAway · 46-50, F

I know it doesn't seem like it now, but it's good you got this out of the way now. He isn't the right one for you if he would do this after you were just trying to be honest. It's unfair for him to expect everyone else to have walked the same path he has.

SpectralMourning · 41-45, M

So you were honest and told him that you had two partners. He kept pushing for more details. You were honest and told him the details. And what you told him hurt his feelings and now he's afraid that you will hurt him. I mean if it's as simple as him not liking that you have a romantic history then that's on him...not much you can do about it. But if he thinks the fact that you have a romantic history makes you likely to be the type of person to hurt someone that just doesn't make any sense.

dirge

it seems like his expectations are unrealistic. 'not much experience' is very much a personal judgement call. to him (at least seemingly), you had lots of experience. to most people living outside amish communities, that seems like a pretty reasonable assessment. it also seems pretty uncouth of him to keep pressing on a topic that you didn't want to talk about, share, and was kinda not any of his business in the first place.

this is one of those odd reflective sorts of things, you feel like you're not good enough for him, but the reality is he's not good nor reasonable enough for you.

vic7ory

You did lie according to him

It may not seem that way to you but it definitely did to him

He wanted to know how far you had went hoping it wasn't all the way since you insisted your lack of experience

In the end after revealing everything it becomes clear to him your lack of experience and his understanding of it was not the same which is why he cried

eMortal · M

Unfortunately people who practice "abstinence" are very uptight. They usually lack compassion, which what true Christianity is all about(Mary of Magdalena is an example). Forget his heart and morals. He failed the compassion test.
I hope he gets the courage to admit he's acting like a robot. If he doesn't, it's not your loss.

IM5688 · 61-69, M

If he is that much of a Christian he,
#1 Should practice forgiveness. Your past has little to do with the present or future.
#2 Shouldn't be judging you. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

KentuckyWildcats · M

How old is this guy? What does he expect from a lady in her 30s? Surely, locating a woman in your age range that has remained celibate is going to to be a difficut task.

His loss, move on to greener pastures.

DM me if you'd like.

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vic7ory

The world has turned chaotic. Too much wickedness and deception. Nothing is as it appears. You are better off alone than trapped in misery for the rest of your days being tormented