For men loooking for a "nurturing" woman

What are you providing that will make a woman feel safe and loved to want to nurture you?

If all you are doing is taking the nurturing and not providing anything in return, then you will not get what you want.

While relationships aren't to be transactional, if all you are doing is wanting, but not giving, you are not the kind of person a woman who is nurturing wants to be with.

You can't pour from an empty bucket.

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Northwest · M

if all you are doing is wanting, but not giving

That would be taking advantage of someone and at a minimum abusive and chauvinistic.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Northwest Agreed, hut it happens way too often

Northwest · M

@FoxyQueen Some people may be "forced" to remain in an unbalanced relationship, but those who don't, should bolt at the very first sign of being taken advantage of.

In a balanced relationship, partners lean on each other, but don't advantage.

On Marriage
Kahlil Gibran
1883 –1931

Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, master?
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of your be alone,
Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.