The spark fades no matter what, because the hormones drop year by year.

But to keep it alive for as long as possible:
1. keep fit and practise kegels. More energy and a good pelvic floor make better experiences for both.
2. learn to communicate well and resolve conflicts. Nothing kills desire like anger or resentments.
3. have outside interests, so as to bring freshness into conversations
4. set aside at least one day a week to be together doing fun things, preferably with variety as well as old faves
5. consider role play from fantasisies. The better one can throw onself into the role, the better it works.
6. be fully aware, focused and in tune with one another
7. play with sensuality, bath, spa, shower, silk, feathers, incense, massage - whaatever takes your fancy
8. avoid falling into "template" sex, where you've each discovered what works best, and you do whatever gets you sated the quickest. Nothing goes stale quicker tha repetition.
9. Needs change for both men and women as we age, so keep checking in with each other about them.

By old age, just warmth, closeness, affection and goodwill are all it takes to feel the buzz of love, and it's perfectly satisfying.

Sprinkling Spark: Fun Micro-Moments to Keep Love Fresh
Keeping the spark alive isn't about grand gestures alone—it thrives in everyday micro-moments that remind you why you fell for each other.
Surprise & Delight
- Slip a sticky note on the mirror with a silly doodle or a “You’re my favorite.”
- Send a random midday text: a GIF, an inside joke or a quick “thinking of you.”
- Deliver their favorite snack or coffee unannounced.
Shared Mini-Adventures
- Explore a new neighborhood together on foot or by bike—even just 30 minutes.
- Chase the sunset: park on a hill, share earbuds and a playlist.
- Try a five-minute dance-off in your living room to a song you both love.
Playful Connection
- Challenge each other to a pillow fight or thumb-war tournament.
- Build a blanket fort and binge the first 10 minutes of a show you both like.
- Take turns giving 60-second serenades or silly accents.
Daily Rituals
- Start the day with a secret handshake or a morning two-second dance.
- End the night tech-free: share one highlight and one laugh from your day.
- Exchange quick gratitude high-fives before you part ways each morning.

Those tiny shared moments become the threads that weave a resilient, joyful partnership. Pick a handful, sprinkle them into your routine, and watch your connection glow. 🫶

I am one of those that always does loving and wonderful things spontaneous trips to the beach bubble baths for two home cooked meals snuggling together watching a good movie I'm not only a very sexual and sensual man I am a romantic too so I don't have the problem the problem I have is women who can keep up with me

I try to make sure, when she's out with her friends and they're all complaining about their partners, her only complaint is, "He can't keep his hands off me!".

I would like to learn how to find the spark in the first place with someone. I stopped trying after a gazillion rejections and negative replies.

For some reason, i don't think we are going to have that problem.

Authentic people don't.
We're called divorced.

ideally get drunk once in a while

Thwarting totalitarian assimilation plan attempts works well

I went on Nofap and ejaculated once every three weeks to 3 months it made sex much more fun because I was edging all the time.