How do you keep the spark?
What are some fun little things that you do that keeps the spark in your relationship? For example my fiance and I have our own little things but I'm curious what others do.
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hartfire · 61-69
The spark fades no matter what, because the hormones drop year by year.
But to keep it alive for as long as possible:
1. keep fit and practise kegels. More energy and a good pelvic floor make better experiences for both.
2. learn to communicate well and resolve conflicts. Nothing kills desire like anger or resentments.
3. have outside interests, so as to bring freshness into conversations
4. set aside at least one day a week to be together doing fun things, preferably with variety as well as old faves
5. consider role play from fantasisies. The better one can throw onself into the role, the better it works.
6. be fully aware, focused and in tune with one another
7. play with sensuality, bath, spa, shower, silk, feathers, incense, massage - whaatever takes your fancy
8. avoid falling into "template" sex, where you've each discovered what works best, and you do whatever gets you sated the quickest. Nothing goes stale quicker tha repetition.
9. Needs change for both men and women as we age, so keep checking in with each other about them.
By old age, just warmth, closeness, affection and goodwill are all it takes to feel the buzz of love, and it's perfectly satisfying.
But to keep it alive for as long as possible:
1. keep fit and practise kegels. More energy and a good pelvic floor make better experiences for both.
2. learn to communicate well and resolve conflicts. Nothing kills desire like anger or resentments.
3. have outside interests, so as to bring freshness into conversations
4. set aside at least one day a week to be together doing fun things, preferably with variety as well as old faves
5. consider role play from fantasisies. The better one can throw onself into the role, the better it works.
6. be fully aware, focused and in tune with one another
7. play with sensuality, bath, spa, shower, silk, feathers, incense, massage - whaatever takes your fancy
8. avoid falling into "template" sex, where you've each discovered what works best, and you do whatever gets you sated the quickest. Nothing goes stale quicker tha repetition.
9. Needs change for both men and women as we age, so keep checking in with each other about them.
By old age, just warmth, closeness, affection and goodwill are all it takes to feel the buzz of love, and it's perfectly satisfying.