That men are fixers, and women are processors. Men are presented with a problem and actively work to resolve the problem. Women are presented with a problem and a flurry of things start working; emotions, potential solutions, end results.
This doesn't mean either one is better than the other. We often get to the same ending, just in different ways.
A lot of men get frustrated when they solve a problem for a woman, and she becomes upset. It's understandable. They say a problem and did what needed to be done to fix it. Done deal. But the woman hasn't finished processing it yet, and doesn't feel heard.
Not all problems need solutions. Not all solutions are the right ones. Sometimes, one just wants to process the emotions and everything that goes with it. Sometimes, someone just wants to be heard with no advice. Sometimes, someone just wants to feel validated in their feelings without a resolution.
One of the best solutions to prevent frustration is to ask questions. We have truly lost this art. To ask the why's and the what would you like me to do's. Sometimes that is all the resolution a problem needs.
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@iamthe99 Somewhat. That book is actually pretty misogynistic (I read it when it came out. It equated to: Men appease your wife no matter what otherwise she will make you miserable! No thanks! That's not a healthy relationship)
But it is true that men and women approach problems differently, on average. It's just learning what your partner's approach is and asking questions.
