Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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Greyjedi · M

Yeah, there are people out there who are interested in good women, myself included. A good looking one would be nice but a good woman is far more important. We are all aging and very few if any people stay at all good looking.

Online information and interactions are like a coin flip I find. Some are good and some are bad. Some give you good information and some give bad information. My experience (and this just my experience as a single man and a single point of data) if you sound strange, if you have critical opinions no matter how true they are if they are critical and can be harsh to some or you are mentally disabled in any fashion, only 1 in 2000 women are going to care about you at all. Even if the your opinions are not about women. You just get ignored as if your life doesn’t matter or is offensive. Also few if any woman who say they are interested aren’t or aren’t actually women.

Loyalty is good that is something I look for in even just a friend. I picked my last girlfriend because when we were just friends she showed my great loyalty. Warmth is great. I try to develop emotional connection with my girlfriend. What safety? I look for a relationship to have a feeling of real safety. What about being authentic and one’s best self. I look for a relationship to help me be my best authentic self and help her do the same. What about a brighter better world? One of the most important things to me is a woman who wants to help me try to build a better a better future.

Yeah I want to find something genuine too.

Why not all men? Why just men over 50? That’s like me asking only for 20 year olds with large hips and even larger breasts who are really smart, multi ethnic and rich. My experience is people how say they “Know what they are worth” tend to overestimate themselves and underestimate others. You and I are in the same boat in that are value is not prime by society’s standards. You are to old to be worth an old man and I am to young to be worth a young woman.