Looking Beyond Looks..Is It Still Possible?

"A question for the men here (especially over 50)..."

I’ve been wondering lately—
Are there still men out there who are genuinely looking for a good woman... not just a good-looking one?

It feels like so much of online dating is about appearances, especially as we get older. But what about character? Loyalty? Warmth? Emotional connection?

I’m not in my 20s, but I know my worth. I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve been through some hard things—and I’ve grown. I still believe in companionship, in real connection, in sharing life with someone who sees you for who you are, not just how you look.

So I’m curious—do men over 50 still value that? Are there still men out there who want depth, kindness, honesty… and a woman who brings her whole heart to the table?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—men or women.

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

In my experience, it is 100% about looks with men. They are always looking out for the newer, shinier woman, even when they already have a good woman.

peterlee · M

@DearAmbellina2113 you have chosen the wrong men all your life.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@peterlee They are always wonderful in the beginning. You don't see their true side til after they have you.

peterlee · M

@DearAmbellina2113 You are learning.

And men should realise that women need someone they can share with, and be there for them. And make them feel good about themselves. Basically care.

Logybear50 · 46-50, FNew

That's been my experience, unfortunately 😏

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Logybear50 they will deny it and say "not all men". But it is all men. 😒

Therealsteve · 31-35, M

@DearAmbellina2113 Lol this happens so frequently that I think it's intentional with women like you. There are countless men who are clearly very good husband material and a large number of women won't give them a second thought. These same women then end up complaining that the tenth mentally ill weirdo they chose to date was a mentally ill weirdo.

Elisbch · M

@DearAmbellina2113

Not trying to start an argument, but men can say the exact same thing and do often times of women. 😕

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Therealsteve always the woman's fault, huh?

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Therealsteve and do you say the same about men who date horrible women? Or is it again, the woman's fault?

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Therealsteve how is it different for men? Please explain lol.

Therealsteve · 31-35, M

@DearAmbellina2113 Nah, enjoy the men you describe :D I have stuff to do, now.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Therealsteve you're so full of 💩