Speaking as someone that's been married near 30 years. Communication is key

Talk to her and there is a chance she will leave you. But hiding this from her will make things worse as time moves along.

Talk to your wife. She has a right to know what's going on with you. It may very well lead to the dissolution of your marriage, or she might be fine with it.

If she's fine with it, and doesn't mind helping you explore that part of yourself, the two of you might recruit an acceptable guy for a threeway in which you can explore your feelings.

The thing is that I'm not sure if late-onset homosexuality/bisexuality is a thing. Most people I know who are gay have said they knew it pretty early — late teens, early 20s at the oldest. But who knows?

Also, it may not be so much that you're gay as you just aren't aroused by your wife anymore, which could happen for a variety of reasons.

You know your wife, you have some idea how she'll react. If you really think that you're on the verge of a major life change, then you are obligated to share that with her, because it will affect her life, as well.

Good luck.

You should tell your wife. Maybe she'll agree to a separation so you can explore these new urges, or maybe she won't, but you should be honest with her. You owe her that.

Talk to your wife about it. She may be able to help you with your fantasies and explore with you.

That's totally fabulous, some of us are just dazzling late bloomers!

Maybe you are bi like many of us here. It can be a good thing. Is there something on this site that makes you think you’re specifically gay?

Check out adult movies of both straight and gay types for a start, maybe? I wouldn't recommend cheating on your wife, but an open and honest conversation is the way to go.

Well, it's possible you might be bisexual. I'd say take it slow. Also make sure that you keep your wife filled in on any developments here, lest she decide you're cheating on her.

When I say take it slow, if you are already using роr𝗇 with her permission, the next time you're using it, watch a straight video, but focus on the guy. See if you can get aroused just focusing on him. If that works, try looking at some pictures of guys, without a woman in the picture and see if it's still working.

From there, if your wife is okay with it, and ONLY if she's okay with it, you could try experimenting in real life. But nothing on that front without a long conversation with your partner. Too many relationships have been blown up because of stuff like this.

Tell your wife. She will advise you further

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Give it a try! What have you got to lose - except your wife, if she finds out.

I think you already answered your question.

Be honest, open and communicate.

Divorce and be free to explore.

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Maybe it's porn (even 'softporn') fucking up your mind?
But idk, think about it, talk to someone you trust maybe, and go do whatever makes you happier

Divorce your poor wife