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JestAJester · 31-35, M
I dont understand questions like this. Why does it matter which is more important? Both are necessary. If there is no love you're just aquaintences. If there is no respect, its chaotic and can easily shatter bonds. Theres a whole plethora of feelings and emotions that are intrinsic and necessary for a healthy relationship.
Renkon · M
@JestAJester Over time, many relationships lose the love that once brought them together. Emotions fade, and resentment creeps in. Love is powerful but often hard to sustain. But maybe it’s respect, steadier and stronger that carries people through when love falters. Should respect be the foundation that relationships are built?
Magenta · F
@Renkon Wise commentary and quite true in many long term relationships.
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@Renkon I dont believe a romantic relationship can last without love. For it to be romantic love must be involved but love cannot be sustained on its own. It requires helpers so to speak such as respect, understanding, patience, loyalty, etc. Hard to say exactly what a foundation should consist of or what percentage each of those words fulfill so to speak. I would say the ratio between love, respect, loyalty, understanding, etc varies from couple to couple. I believe you can still retain respect another being even if they have done you wrong. Say a relationship was broken due to misplaced trust. Say someone cheated. Well it wasn't love that dissipated nor respect although it probably withered somewhat. This time it was trust and loyalty that was broken. I don't think it really matters all that much on which is more important because they're all important. We need a collection of many different emotional facets to maintain a steady and strong foundation.

I hope that answered your question.

I would choose respect. It is all encompassing in itself: Empathy; considerate of others' (people and animal's)feelings... non-discriminatory, appreciative, supportive, giving the space people need and being there when needed, not dismissive, careful with expressing themselves, temperance/self control, non-violent and having a sense of moral justice.

Love is beautiful, powerful, and a blessing, but sometimes, depending on one's personality and life situations, some ways of loving do not have the things I mentioned above. It does not make their love less but just different, perhaps due to situations or the capacity to fully give.
Magenta · F
Hard to choose. I want to say respect, yet, another person's respect should not make us feel worthy or unworthy. We should feel that internally, respect for self. But another treating us with respect is highly important and entangled with the love.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Love makes life worth living. Respect is earned and therefore limited. But, I tend to respect easily until proven otherwise. Love, however, is insanely rare for me, as is passion.

Backed into a corner:
Love
Trust
Respect
Achelois · F
Respect, because if it’s not love respect me enough to walk away.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Respect. The love will fade pretty quick without it.
Trust is the seed that blooms into respect, then love.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
Respect matters.

But when love is blind, respect becomes secondary 🙂😇
@WandererTony wise words
WandererTony · 56-60, M
@Ghostinthemachine Thank you. 😊
Respect is part of and precedes love.
If there is no respect, then love is not possible.
Lust is not love.
Laura01 · 61-69, F
Impossible to chose, both go hand in hand
Renkon · M
@Laura01 But do they actually go hand in hand in most relationships?
Laura01 · 61-69, F
@Renkon Nope, but they should
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
Respect.

If someone doesn't respect you, there is no way they love you.
YoMomma · 41-45
Can they even exist without the other?
Renkon · M
@YoMommaThey should coexist. Unfortunately, for many, it’s neither of them because time wears them down. At least one of them should be present.
YoMomma · 41-45
@Renkon hmm
Miram · 31-35, F
Why did you omit the most important option?
Renkon · M
@Miram which is?
Zeusdelight · 61-69, M
It is not a dichotomy.

 
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