How much sex should there be to maintain a committed relationship?

@Adogslife A form of abuse? Are you for real?

@Morvoren 100%.

Have you ever experienced a committed marriage where sex was intentionally withheld? And not for days, think months or years at a time.

If that wouldn’t cause depression with you, you’re a better person than I am.

@Adogslife I like talking to guys like you. They make my husband appear god like.

@Morvoren You avoided the question. Do you have experience in a truly sexless marriage?

If not, it’s probably best to skip the snide remarks.

@Adogslife Yes. I had a miscarriage and in the process picked up an injury that meant sex was off the cards for 7 months.

@Morvoren That’s totally reasonable. Your husband should be understanding there. To not would be heartless.

I’m talking about a clinically sexless marriage. Think of a partner not liking sex and thus intentionally withholding sex, and not temporarily.

It’s a completely different scenario than yours. But, thank you for your answer. I’m genuinely sorry that happened to you.

@Adogslife Did you up your sex game or make yourself more desirable?

@Morvoren Neither was necessary. They don’t solve having a frigid partner. She tried therapy, but it didn’t work. It eventually came to a head where the choice was open marriage, affair or divorce. She chose divorce thinking I’d fight for her. I didn’t. That was finalized in 2018.

I’m remarried now and living a happy life, including sexually. “Upping” my game physically or financially was never an issue nor a point of contention. The marriage simply had outlived itself with no sex and her refusal to work.

@Morvoren If being from affluent parents and living off a trust counts as “work”, yes, she did all the work.

@Adogslife And what did you do?

@Morvoren Gee, eat bon bons I suppose.

Or, perhaps provide a house by the water, pool, vacations, private schools, colleges, etc. Try to give three women a life where they wanted for nothing.

Provide and be available.