Relationship advice needed

@HijabaDabbaDoo sometimes I don't and have no idea why I'm still sitting in his room. I live an hour away and don't drive. I get afraid that he'll chase me onto the street at an odd hour and my bag goes missing again.

@BabyyBluee I noticed you're from the UK so I'm gonna throw out options that could help if you're ready to leave him, which from the sounds of things, you want to but don't quite know how.

If you don't drive, look up the national express timetable finder, enter your city and see which routes are available. This is a much cheaper alternative than trains or a taxi.

Let a friend or family know about your whereabouts, and pack your belongings separately to avoid being confronted by him.

Sounds like you already have a place to live and that the police is already aware. So, use it to protect yourself. Build your case. Texts, threats, the lot, keep hold of it. He sounds emotionally abusive. You deserve better. I hope it goes well

@HijabaDabbaDoo thank you so much for this advice. I feel determined to leave.

@HootyTheNightOwl I understand. Thank you.

@BabyyBluee You feel what you feel. There’s no legitimate or illegitimate, feelings just…. are. It’s like asking if rain is legitimate.

From an outsider’s perspective, yes, relationships take work, but not this much work and police being involved is a giant red flag. Do you really want to continue on like this? There are good men in the world who won’t cause you so much self doubt and come without any of this drama.

@OlderSometimesWiser I still don't understand why he called the police. One friend said that he was trying to jeopardise my future.

@BabyyBluee And you may never understand. The point is that he did and you deserve better. Leaving him doesn’t require complete clarity. From everything you’ve described, the relationship is toxic and it’s time to move on.

I have two nieces your age. One recently married, the other getting married this summer. Happy, healthy relationships. The thought of them putting up with any of the crap you’ve described is inconceivable. They just have too much self respect and self worth.

You should too. Seriously, want more for yourself. Stop settling for this BS he’s dishing out.