Relationship advice needed

Do you think I'm being childish? by feeling annoyed that his ex's surname is on his Amazon, laptop, peri peri takeaway (the name they call when food is ready) attached to the phone number they have for him and constantly having to look at a cup that's placed right in front of me on a shelf each time I do dishes with her surname on it advertising her dad's crappy 2cent business.

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HijabaDabbaDoo · F Best Comment

I don't think it's childish. It's important to feel respected in a relationship. This sounds like a lack of regard for you. I'm gonna assume you've had a conversation about it before?

BabyyBluee · 26-30, F

@HijabaDabbaDoo no I haven't I'm afraid he'll get angry at me or laugh at me.

The last time I raised a concern about him being distant and frustrated he called the police on me when I couldn't find my bag to leave as he asked.

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

@BabyyBluee that's a majorly disproportionate reaction.
Do you feel safe?

BabyyBluee · 26-30, F

@HijabaDabbaDoo sometimes I don't and have no idea why I'm still sitting in his room. I live an hour away and don't drive. I get afraid that he'll chase me onto the street at an odd hour and my bag goes missing again.

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

@BabyyBluee I noticed you're from the UK so I'm gonna throw out options that could help if you're ready to leave him, which from the sounds of things, you want to but don't quite know how.

If you don't drive, look up the national express timetable finder, enter your city and see which routes are available. This is a much cheaper alternative than trains or a taxi.

Let a friend or family know about your whereabouts, and pack your belongings separately to avoid being confronted by him.

Sounds like you already have a place to live and that the police is already aware. So, use it to protect yourself. Build your case. Texts, threats, the lot, keep hold of it. He sounds emotionally abusive. You deserve better. I hope it goes well

BabyyBluee · 26-30, F

@HijabaDabbaDoo thank you so much for this advice. I feel determined to leave.