Relationship advice needed

@OlderSometimesWiser yes. I'm thinking about how I feel first and ensuring that I'm not being immature or at fault first.

@BabyyBluee Gotcha. Though I would have thought his call to the police would have put your doubts to rest.

@OlderSometimesWiser yes. Just trying to be sure. However, do you think from my post I'm being immature or is it a legitimate way to feel?

@BabyyBluee You feel what you feel. There’s no legitimate or illegitimate, feelings just…. are. It’s like asking if rain is legitimate.

From an outsider’s perspective, yes, relationships take work, but not this much work and police being involved is a giant red flag. Do you really want to continue on like this? There are good men in the world who won’t cause you so much self doubt and come without any of this drama.

@OlderSometimesWiser I still don't understand why he called the police. One friend said that he was trying to jeopardise my future.

@BabyyBluee And you may never understand. The point is that he did and you deserve better. Leaving him doesn’t require complete clarity. From everything you’ve described, the relationship is toxic and it’s time to move on.

I have two nieces your age. One recently married, the other getting married this summer. Happy, healthy relationships. The thought of them putting up with any of the crap you’ve described is inconceivable. They just have too much self respect and self worth.

You should too. Seriously, want more for yourself. Stop settling for this BS he’s dishing out.